2018 Emmy Award Winners (main event)

emmysThe 2018 Primetime Emmy Awards have arrived! I was able to tune in briefly to see the arrivals and red carpet looks before the main programming. Tiffany Haddish was seen commenting on her colorful dress after having won her Emmy award last night, mentioning that she’s always just having fun. Dynamic Duo Chrissy Teigen and John Legend walked hand-in-hand, making jokes about pronouncing their names. And Taraj P. Hensen, among many others, were seen looking beautiful and entering the venue.

The evening started out with a musical number attempting to celebrate our efforts with diversity and the social movements, which included all our favorite icons, from RuPaul, to John Legend, Kristen Bell, and many SNL cast members. michal and collinCollin Jost and Michael Che then were introduced and began delivering their comedy and hellos to the “thousands of people watching in the audience and the hundreds watching at home.” They noted that Netflix received the most nominations of the night, which they joked probably made networks nervous… probably not a joke.  Netflix currently has over 700 original shows, clearly reshaping what is considered “primetime television”.

Michael Che then highlights the issues with diversity on TV that were discussed in the opening number. Many reboots of our favorite shows will include a more diverse cast in the upcoming TV season, including a Latino Magnum PI and Latina cast of Charmed. After some quick laughs, the awards were then given for the Comedy nominations!

Henry Winkler (Barry)Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Comedy Series: Henry Winkler (Barry)
Nominations: Louie Anderson (Baskets), Alec Baldwin (Saturday Night Live), Tituss Burgess (Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt), Brian Tyree Henry (Atlanta), Tony Shalhoub (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel), Kenan Thompson (Saturday Night Live)

Alex Borstein (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Comedy Series: Alex Borstein (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)
Nominations: Zazie Beetz (Atlanta), Aidy Bryant (Saturday Night Live), Betty Gilpin (GLOW), Leslie Jones (Saturday Night Live), Kate McKinnon (Saturday Night Live), Laurie Metcalf (Roseanne), Megan Mullally (Will & Grace)

Rachel Brosnahan (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)Outstanding Leading Actress in a Comedy Series: Rachel Brosnahan (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)
Nominations: Pamela Adlon (Better Things),  Allison Janney (Mom), Issa Rae (Insecure), Tracee Ellis Ross (Black-ish), Lily Tomlin (Grace and Frankie)

Bill HaderOutstanding Leading Actor in a Comedy Series: Bill Hader (Barry)
Nominations: Anthony Anderson (Black-ish), Ted Danson (The Good Place), Larry David (Curb Your Enthusiasm), Donald Glover (Atlanta), William H. Macy (Shameless)

Other awards that were given in the Comedy category:
Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series: Amy Sherman Paladino (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)
Outstanding Directing for a Comedy Series: Amy Sherman Paladino (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel)

An important message was quickly thrown in at the end of Rachel Brosnahan’s thank you – a reminder to VOTE this November! However, the irony became apparent at this point in the program that although the cast sang of diversity on television in the opening song and dance, all of the award winners at this point so far have been white. This was of course highlighted by Michael Che, who also called everyone out for not thanking Jesus in their speech. (Isn’t like, half of Hollywood Jewish? Just saying.) Next up, Limited Series or Movie nominations!

Merritt Wever (Godless)Outstanding Supporting Actress in Limited Series or Movie:  Merritt Wever (Godless)
Nominations: Sara Bareilles (Jesus Christ Superstar), Penelope Cruz (The Assassination of Gianni Versace), Judith Light (The Assassination of Gianni Versac), Adina Porter (American Horror Story: Cult), Letitia Wright (“Black Museum”, Black Mirror)

Jeff Daniels (Godless)Outstanding Supporting Actor in Limited Series or Movie: Jeff Daniels (Godless)
Nominations: Brandon Victor Dixon (Jesus Christ Superstar), John Leguizamo (Waco), Ricky Martin (The Assassination of Gianni Versace), Edgar Ramirez (The Assassination of Gianni Versace), Michael Stuhlbarg (The Looming Tower), Finn Wittrock (The Assassination of Gianni Versace)

Regina King (Seven Seconds)Outstanding Leading Actress in Limited Series or Movie: Regina King (Seven Seconds)
Nominations: Jessica Biel (The Sinner), Laura Dern (The Tale), Michelle Dockery (Godless), Edie Falco (Law & Order: Menendez Murders), Sarah Paulson (American Horror Story: Cult)

Darren Criss (The Assassination of Gianni Versace)Outstanding Leading Actor in Limited Series or Movie: Darren Criss (The Assassination of Gianni Versace)
Nominations: Antonio Banderas (Genius), Benedict Cumberbatch (Patrick Melrose), Jeff Daniels (The Looming Tower), John Legend (Jesus Christ Superstar), Jesse Plemons (Black Mirror: USS Callister)

Other awards that were given in the Limited Series or Movie category:
Outstanding Writing for a Limited Series or Movie: William Bridges and Charlie Brooker (USS Callister)
Outstanding Directing for a Limited Series or Movie: Ryan Murphy (The Assassination of Gianni Versace)

The highlight of this stretch was of course, the wonderful and beautiful legend that is Betty White. 24 Emmy nominations, 8 of which she won the award, and at 96 years old looks amazing to tell the tales. Betty steals the hearts of viewers everywhere with her charm and her humor delivered in the sweet, high pitched shaky voice. Don’t ever leave us, Betty – we love you! Other note here that made me laugh is the lack of voice that Leslie Jones will have tomorrow after screaming for Regina King while announcing her win. Finally, some of that diversity you all were talking about. Michael Che was again quick to point this out, followed by rolling a digital short where he hands out Emmy trophies to black actors and actresses from shows such as Family Matters, The Jeffersons, and the Wayans Bros. There is a clear and present theme to tonight’s program.

Awards given in the Variety Special category:
Outstanding Writing for a Variety Special: John Mulaney (Kid Gorgeous at Radio City)
Outstanding Directing for a Variety Special: Glenn Weiss (The Oscars)

Stop everything! Glenn Weiss used his time for his acceptance speech to let his lovely lady know that the reason that he doesn’t like to call her his girlfriend, is because he wants to call her his wife! She then was ushered onto the stage and Glenn gave a very relatable speech before sliding a family heirloom on her finger as she excitedly nodded yes. Cute another hilarious reaction from Leslie Jones and all the tears in the audience and probably across America. Next was a beautiful ode to all the souls we lost this year from the entertainment industry, as the voice of Aretha Franklin played. And up next, the Drama nominations!

Peter Dinklage (Game of Thrones)Outstanding Supporting Actor in Drama Series: Peter Dinklage (Game of Thrones)
Nominations: Nikolaj Coster-Waldau (Game of Thrones), Joseph Fiennes (The Handmaid’s Tale), David Harbour (Stranger Things), Mandy Patinkin (Homeland) Matt Smith (The Crown)

Thandie Newton (Westworld)Outstanding Supporting Actress in Drama Series: Thandie Newton (Westworld)
Nominations: Alexis Bledel (The Handmaid’s Tale), Millie Bobby Brown (Stranger Things), Ann Dowd (The Handmaid’s Tale), Lena Headey (Game of Thrones), Vanessa Kirby (The Crown), Yvonne Strahovski (The Handmaid’s Tale)

Matthew Rhys (The Americans)Outstanding Leading Actor in Drama Series: Matthew Rhys (The Americans)
Nominations: Sterling K. Brown (This Is Us), Jason Bateman (Ozark), Ed Harris (Westworld), Milo Ventimiglia (This Is Us), Jeffrey Wright (Westworld)

Claire Foy (The Crown)Outstanding Leading Actress in Drama Series: Claire Foy (The Crown)
Nominations: Tatiana Maslany (Orphan Black), Elisabeth Moss (The Handmaid’s Tale), Sandra Oh (Killing Eve), Keri Russell (The Americans), Evan Rachel Wood (Westworld)

Other awards that were given in the Drama category:
Outstanding Writing for a Drama Series: Joel Fields and Joe Weisberg (The Americans)
Outstanding Directing for a Drama Series: Stephen Daldry (The Crown)

Alright, we’re getting to the end here. Before wrapping up with the last of the awards, there is a quick look back at how far the Emmy Awards has come, presented by the Chairman of the Academy, Hayma Washington. And finally, the big winners!

RuPaul's Drag RaceOutstanding Reality-Competition Program: RuPaul’s Drag Race
Nominations: The Amazing Race, American Ninja Warrior, Project Runway, Top Chef, The Voice

Saturday Night LiveOutstanding Variety Sketch Series: Saturday Night Live
Nominations: At Home With Amy Sedaris, Drunk History, I Love You America With Sarah Silverman, Portlandia, Tracey Ullman’s Show

Last Week Tonight With John OliverOutstanding Variety Talk Series: Last Week Tonight With John Oliver
Nominations: The Daily Show With Trevor Noah, Full Frontal With Samantha Bee, Jimmy Kimmel Live!, The Late Late Show With James Corden, The Late Show With Stephen Colbert

The Assassination of Gianni VersaceOutstanding Limited Series: The Assassination of Gianni Versace
Nominations: The Alienist, Godless, Genius, Patrick Melrose

 The Marvelous Mrs. MaiselOutstanding Comedy Series: The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel
Nominations: Atlanta, Barry, Black-ish, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Glow, Silicon Valley, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

Game of ThronesOutstanding Drama Series: Game of Thrones
Nominations:  The Americans, The Crown, The Handmaid’s Tale, Stranger Things, This Is Us, Westworld

I think the overall message from tonight is to celebrate the strides that we have made in diversity and representation, but recognize that there is a long way to go. You have to look back to go forward. But hey – here’s to some truly great television!

For a full list of nominees and award winners from the 2018 Emmy Awards, visit www.emmys.com. To read my highlighted list of award winners from over the weekend, click here! And make sure to visit kellyoharadesign.com every week for lots of recommendations, reviews, and ideas regarding TV and movies from an expert in the industry.

There were many programs both nominated and awarded that I have not yet seen, so I guess I have plenty of TV to watch. On a personal note, GO RUPAUL!!!!!!! “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love someone else – can I get an ‘Amen’ up in here?! Now, let the music play!”

Thanks for reading!

2018 Emmy Award Winners (sat & sun)

Getting excited for the TV red carpet event of the year?! The 70th PrimeTime Emmy Awards broadcasts live tonight, September rs_1024x576-180710125059-1024.emmys.7131817th at 8PM on NBC, hosted by SNL’s Collin Jost and Michael Che. Over the weekend, many nominations received their award on nights one and two that took place on September 15th and 16th. In case you need a recap, here is a highlight of several 2018 Emmy winners so far:

Samira Wiley, Handmaid_s TaleOutstanding Guest Actress on a Drama Series – Samira Wiley, Handmaid’s Tale

This Is Us - Season 1Outstanding Guest Actor on Drama Series – Ron Cephas Jones, This is Us

Tiffany Haddish, SNLOutstanding Guest Actress on a Comedy Series – Tiffany Haddish, SNL

Katt Williams, AtlantaOutstanding Guest Actor on a Comedy Series – Katt Williams, Atlanta

Queer EyeOutstanding Structured Reality Program – Queer Eye

United Shades of AmericaOutstanding Unstructured Reality Program – United Shades of America

RuPaul, RuPaul's Drag RaceOutstanding Host for a Reality Program – RuPaul, RuPaul’s Drag Race

U.S.S. Callister Mutato Building EventOutstanding Television Movie – USS Callister

Mandy Moore, So You Think You Can DanceOutstanding Choreography – Mandy Moore, So You Think You Can Dance

Game of ThronesOutstanding Special Visual Effects – Game of Thrones

James Corden_s Next James CordenOutstanding Short Form Comedy or Drama – James Corden’s Next James Corden

one-direction-joins-james-corden-for-carpool-karaoke-720x720Outstanding Short Form Variety Series – Carpool Karaoke

Rick and MortyOutstanding Animated Program – Rick and Morty

Robot ChickenOutstanding Short Form Animated Program – Robot Chicken

Alex Borstein, Family GuyOutstanding Character Voice-Over Performance – Alex Borstein, Family Guy

Dave Chappelle, EquanimityOutstanding Pre-Recorded Variety Special – Dave Chappelle, Equanimity

Tune in tonight at 8 PM to see the rest of the big winners! (For a list of nominations and some predictions from someone in the industry, click HERE!)

Thanks for reading.

Podcast Favorites #3

podcast  Here is another round of my current favorite podcast suggestions! (#1, #2)

COMEDY:

Off The RailsOff The Rails with Sarah Colonna and Josh Wolf – This podcast is going back a couple of years, but is super worth the binge. After “Josh and Ross / he said he said” ended, Josh kept his old school radio style podcast going with a new co-host. Sarah is hilarious and their conversations are a perfect combination of relevant issues and absolutely ruthless and disgusting ideas. I’m a big fan of both Sarah and Josh from a comedy standpoint, so I recommend going a google search for their material as well.

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Fairly Normal with Josh Wolf – Eventually, Josh goes solo on the podcast and Fairly Normal was born. Josh actually has an incredible story of how his family was created, and the episodes with his children are some of the most interesting. (TBH I should probably read Josh’s book to get the full story, cause its genuinely fascinating.) Some of the episodes include and guest and others are just solo rambles from Josh on the road, but all are entertaining. All the episodes of Off the Rails and Fairly normal can both be found under this logo on the Podcast app.

3 Girls 1 Keith3 Girls 1 Keith – This is a new podcast, and I only listen to the shortened version on iTunes. Apparently there is an extended version on Spotify, but I like the shortened show well enough. Amy Shumer, Bridget Everett, and Rachel Bloom partner with their friend Keith to talk about taboo topics and humiliate Keith as much as possible. If you are a fan of Amy Shumer’s, this is a good listen. Covering everything from love to pets to anal, it’s a quick and funny show in typical Amy Shumer comedy.

 

DRAG RACE:

Race ChaserRace Chaser – Sorry not sorry that I am a HUGE fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race and this podcast is EVERYTHING! Alaska and Willam are diving into each episode one by one as their love letter to the series. I am having a blast watching an episode from season one every week and listening to Alaska and Willam dissect it with their wit. There are some special guest appearances from the queens featured on the episodes and lots of inside information. If you are a fan of Drag Race, this podcast really is a MUST. I’m also obsessed with Alaska and will listen to anything with her voice in it.

Whimsically VolatileWhimsically Volatile – If you know Drag Race, you know Katya. Previous to listening to this podcast, I did not know Craig, but Katya and Craig together create an absolutely ridiculous and over the top duo. This podcast is full of inappropriateness that you just can’t find anywhere else. Katya (Brian) really goes deep into some truly gruesome stories that you can’t stop listening too. There is no lack of entertainment here, that’s for sure.

 

OTHER:

Getting CuriousGetting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness – Jonathan is my favorite of the Fab 5 on Queer Eye, and I can never get enough of him. Needless to say, when I found out he had a podcast, I immediately started binging. This podcast is super informative – Jonathan goes keep into topics that make him curious with experts from that field. This covers everything from politics to social media to a diva cup. I’ve already learned so much from listening to this podcast and there is so much information left to discover. Also, Jonathan is the best.

Self HelplessSelf Helpless – This was such an easy binge listen for a crazy person like me! If you have ever had anxiety, read a self help book, or practice the art of Feng Shui, you have to listen to these girls. Comedians Delanie Fischer, Kelsey Cook, and Taylor Tomlinson come together to talk about their experiences with self help, anxiety, and so much more. There is always a comedic relief, but also a lot of great insight. They also did an episode where they covered The Five Love Languages, and a book I am currently reading called “You Are A Badass”. Highly recommend!

NancyNancy – I SAVED THE BEST FOR LAST. Nancy is one of my all time favorite listens, and I cannot wait for them to start the new season and bring me more episodes. Nancy is an LGBTQ podcast that goes though so many issues in the community. To put it simply, this podcast is so real. The hosts Kathy and Tobin go through their experiences with coming out, cover relevant news stories, and shed light on statistics and ideas within the LGBTQ community. This was an eye-opening podcast with so many more ideas to explore. Whether you are a part of the LGBTQ community or not, this is worth the listen. I promise.

More to come! I am always looking for new podcast recommendations and suggestions, so please comment if you have any favorites to share.

Happy listening! Thanks for reading.

Podcast Favorites #2

As I become more of an active podcast listener, I have stumbled upon many more favorites to recognize. Additionally, some shows mentioned in my first podcast post needed some updating. Here it goes:

 

UPDATES:

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Anna Faris No Está Calificada – Good news: one of my favorite podcasts is now available in Spanish! The same episode available in English is copied in a second language, which is awesome for a Spanish learner. Bad news: only one episode was released, several weeks ago, so I am unsure if I should expect this to continue.

This Is Love

This Is Love – Bad news: A new episode has not been released since March. I am not sure if the show is expected to continue at this time. Good news: There are still six really great episodes to listen to, and I do highly recommend them all!

Tiny Leaps, Big ChangesTiny Leaps, Big Changes – Bad news: I had this show categorized under “Short, Daily Listens” and I stopped listening because they were no longer that – short or daily. He went through a period of long interviews released inconsistently and I grew uninterested and therefore, I unsubscribed. Good news: I checked back today out of curiosity, and it looks as though this guy has gotten back into his normal rhythm. I am considering putting this one back on my list, even though I am not as interested as I once was.

spotify-new-music-friday-artworkNew Music Friday – Bad news: these guys released three episodes and then never returned. See ya. Good news: you can still listen to new music every Friday delivered to you in a playlist on Spotify.

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The News, From BuzzFeed News – I am still a big fan of Reporting To You From BuzzFeedNews, and their new show is very good as well. Same idea – relevant news stories, but now delivered as a weekly summary each Saturday. Episodes are roughly 20 minutes long so it’s still an easy and quick listen.

 

 

Women Representation:

female criminalsFemale Criminals – The whole premise of this show is behind the fact that when someone mentions a serious criminal, you might not immediately picture a women. This show dives into the minds of famous criminals such as Bonnie of Bonnie and Clyde, the Columbian drug lord Grisela Blanco, and many famous serial killers. My only critique is that I wished that some of the stories did not carry over into two episodes, but all the stories are still worth the listen.

 

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The Bechdel Cast – I recently wrote a post about The Bechdel Test which challenges female representation in film. This podcast’s group of women dives into different movies and analyzes how women are portrayed in both new films and the classics. The tone is light and funny while also highlighting a lot of important feminist ideas and issues. I recommend going through their list of available episodes and listening to where your favorite movies fall on the “nipple scale.”

 

 

LGBTQ:

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It’s A Gay, Gay, Gay, Gay Podcast with Mr. Malone – Fagsy Malone (who is currently attempting to drop the nickname “Fagsy”) walks through what a typical day in Malibu is like. Famous neighbors, an art class of children, and fun interviews with a motley crew. I really enjoy the deep ideas explored here as well as the light-heartedness that comes with a glorious Malibu morning. Fagsy also has a podcast called “Under the Bus with Fagsy” where I don’t believe he will be posting any future episodes, but they are still worth the listen if you enjoy his sense of humor. JUUUUDY! Ugh, too much.

 

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Josh & Ross (he said, he said) – This show is actually super old… like, 5 or 6 years old… but it’s entertaining as hell. Of course I found this show as a result of Ross Mathew’s current podcast, Straight Talk with Ross (this is the show Ross had with comedian Josh Wolfe in 2012 and 2013 prior to starting Straight Talk), and this show feels a lot like an old school radio show. The content is absolutely hilarious and is great to put in my ears while I work.

 

what's the teeRuPaul’s What’s The Tee? – I started listening to this naturally because I watch RuPaul’s Drag Race, BUT the podcast doesn’t actually talk too much about Drag Race overall. There are some guest judges and favorite contestants that make appearances on episodes of the show, but most of the conversation does not surround the competition. Instead Ru and Michelle Visage talk about contemporary issues, tell their stories and families, go through challenges they have faced, and more. Oh and don’t forget about different wig, nail and make up tricks that are Ruvealed! All Tee all shade.

 

 

As I said before, if anyone has any recommendations or hosts their own podcast, please feel free to leave a comment!

Thanks for reading.

The Bechdel Test

One of my best friends, Kelly is a graphic designer in the entertainment industry and keeps me up to date on upcoming movies, television theories, and of course celebrity news and gossip. She has lived in LA for the past two years and is currently transitioning to NYC. Her experiences working in this industry and living in LA has been awesome to follow and I’m sure she will have a lot of success in New York as well. You can find her portfolio and blog at www.kellyohara.com.

While reading through her blog posts about upcoming movies and lovable TV characters, I found a post where she explained The Bechdel Test. This feminist test consists of 3 rules in which a film must meet in order to pass:

  • The film must have at least two female characters with names.
  • The two female characters must have dialogue.
  • The dialogue must be about something other than a man.

It sounds simple enough, but within Kelly’s blog post was over a dozen movies that didn’t really pass. She often writes about how women are represented and recognized on screen, and promotes strong female characters with meaningful storylines. To view her original post, click HERE!

My boyfriend and I are frequent movie goers, so I decided to apply this test to the 5 movies released in 2018 that we have seen so far. (Don’t worry – no spoilers!)

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Rampage: Kinda sorta passes.
While the movie technically passes, there isn’t a lot of female interaction in general here. There’s a couple of key scenes where the females on opposing sides come face to face, but that’s pretty much it. However, the women are intelligent and highly educated, so that’s something.

A_Quiet_Place_film_posterA Quiet Place: Definitely passes.
The four main characters consist of a mother, father, daughter and son and there is plenty of dialogue that includes the women- despite the fact that that dialogue is in sign language. The family is living in a silent world and the daughter is deaf, but she plays a detrimental part in the plot’s conclusion. Both the mother and daughter are innovative leaders, and I wouldn’t say that typical gender roles apply here. Everyone is equal, and everyone does what they have to in order to protect each other. The movies itself is amazing and I highly recommend.

portrait_incredibleAvengers Infinity War: Just barely passes. – This was disappointing. There are a ton of strong female characters in this movie – why didn’t any of them talk to each other?! The only reason that this movie passes at all is because of one all-female fight scene that – while pretty badass – was also pretty short. It was also annoying that every single female character had an on-screen love interest, which largely drove their side storylines. I won’t even talk about the role of Iron Man’s nagging wife… like I said, disappointing.

5a5c753ac8049Red Sparrow: Passes. – Truthfully, this movie didn’t portray men very well. They are weak creatures in the eyes of the Russian women, and can easily be taken down once that weakness is found. The women are powerful, manipulative, and stealthy. However, the movie had more rape scenes than I was prepared for and definitely showed a side of Russian culture that feminists may not agree with. So.. the movie passes, but there’s a lot more to be explored here.

MV5BZjA5MjZkNmQtNmI1ZS00M2RiLWFlMmUtNGU1ZjA4YTA0NjliXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyNTM3MDMyMDQ@._V1_UY268_CR9,0,182,268_AL_I Feel Pretty: Passes. – Amy Shumer has done a lot for the feminist movement with her stand up comedy, but this movie is more family-friendly than her normal content. Aside from one quick sex scene in which Amy’s character is looking at herself in the mirror, this is a movie you could watch with young girls. It sends a great message – you’re as attractive as you feel! Women are always comparing ourselves to each other and highlighting our flaws, when confidence is all we really need. It shouldn’t be a surprise that this movie passes.

Women face challenges in every industry – whether it’s the pay gap, unequal recognition, or lack of opportunities. And by bringing attention to these issues, we can start to fully address them.

So challenge yourself to apply this test to the next movie you watch! Especially films that have recently been released. Lx7JYlnK_400x400(And if this idea has really caught your interest, I recommend listening to the women on The Bechdal Cast Podcast analyze all your favorite movies and why they do or don’t pass.)

Thanks for reading!

www.kellyohara.com

The Five Love Languages

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by Gary Chapman

READ THIS BOOK. Take the quiz. And read this book.

This book addresses the fact that different things hold different levels of importance to different people. An act that you consider small may be monumental to your partner. There are so many different ways to communicate, and its important to understand which languages means the most to both you and the person that you love.

5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Giving Gifts

I took the quiz and made Ryan (my boyfriend) take it as well prior to reading the book. Just looking at the five love languages, I could spot mine right away: Words of Affirmation. I mean, I was a Communications major… words are important to me. Still, I took the quiz and was validated in my suspicions. Ryan’s answers were surprising in some ways.

My Responses:                          Ryan’s Responses:
9 Words of Affirmation           8 Quality Time
7 Physical Touch                       8 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time                           7 Acts of Service
6 Acts of Service                        4 Physical Touch
1 Receiving Gifts                       3 Receiving Gifts

The book speaks about spouses, but I don’t think this applies only to married people, or even just people in relationships. I think that the way you communicate in love says a lot about who you are and can help you to learn more about yourself and your relationships.

I’ve learned that I am extremely sensitive to words. When Ryan and I are able to communicate well and tell each other all these nice things, I feel good. And on the flip side, if words exchanged are negative, I hold onto them for a long time. Luckily, my need for Words of Affirmation is frequently met through meaningful text messages, small notes, and daily “I love you”s. I still think it’s important for Ryan to recognize that Words of Affirmation is my primary love language for whenever we get into fights or arguments. Knowing that words are important to me means that he can say things like “I’m sorry” and “Everything is fine” a few times and my demeanor will drastically change. I am definitely influenced largely by what is said to me.

Even though Ryan’s top two are tied, I think that Quality Time suits him best. It means a lot to him when we share experiences together or spend time doing things at home. Since Receiving Gifts clearly doesn’t hold a lot of significance to either of us, a lot of my birthday and Christmas presents involved tickets to something. We also enjoy doing small, cheap dates on Friday nights such as dinner and/or the movies. I know that planning and spending time together is something that means a lot to him (and myself as well). On the flip side, he gets upset when we are together but I am not present. There are nights where I will fall asleep early, and the next day he will tell me that I was a zombie. I try not to spend too much time on my phone when we are out or on a date, except for taking a couple pictures for Snapchat.

I would love to dive more into what makes Ryan happy after he reads the book. He doesn’t enjoy reading as much as I do, but has agreed to read sections of the book that I block off for him.

What’s important to remember is that what will make a difference in a relationship is effort. Ross Mathews has a theory about relationships, saying, “You need to meet me 100% at the 50 yard line.” Both parties need to be willing to say, Hey, I care about you and our relationship and doing what I can to make it a good one. I’m lucky to have this, but the author of the book is a marriage counselor and often talks about his theories saving marriages. I definitely think it’s possible to apply his theories to positively influence your relationship (or marriage, or love life or whatever), but only if both parties are willing to put in the effort.

Once the effort is there, a little goes a long way. 

More to come after I block of sections for Ryan and get his feedback. Thanks for reading.

Podcast Favorites

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When I started walking to work, I started listening to podcasts.

WARNING: I’m not a podcast expert. (And I am always looking for recommendations!) However, I do have my favorites and I find myself constantly bringing them up in conversation whenever possible.

So here is a list of my current podcasts shows and some reasons why I love them:

Short, daily listens:

BuzzFeed News Reporting To You

BuzzFeed News: Reporting To You – I was so excited to stumble upon this short, news show. There is a new episode every weekday – usually less than 5 minutes – that covers 3 or 4 top or trending stories. Totally relevant, super quick, and helps me feel in the know. Plus, who isn’t a fan of BuzzFeed? Easily in my top 5 favorite podcasts.

The Good News Podcast

The Good News Podcast – Brought to you by the Cards Against Humanity studio in Chicago – this one makes top 3! This is a great listen, new episodes also released every weekday – always less than 10 minutes long. Simple idea – news stories that are meant to make you smile and bring you positivity. Today’s episode gave the results of a study to find the song that makes people the most happy. And the world’s happiest song is… Don’t Stop Me Now by Queen.

Tiny Leaps, Big Changes

Tiny Leaps, Big Changes – I’m going to be honest here and say that I often skip through some of the episodes here that don’t necessarily apply to me, but I find a lot of motivation within this show. It’s a self-help podcast, exploring different ideas to help you get the most out of your life. The guy Greg who creates this podcast hasn’t posted consistently lately, but there’s a lot of good stuff in his archives.

Weekly intrigues:

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New Music Friday – This is a new one and I am mad at myself for
not starting this first! Spotify updates a playlist every Friday with new music that was released throughout the week. This podcast goes over any new hits that were released (most likely available on the playlist) and which artists to watch. Simple, quick, and noteworthy.

My Favorite MurderMy Favorite Murder – This is going to sound strange but I promise that this is actually a good listen. The podcast talks about true crime and famous murders that include twists, turns, glaring warning signs, and more. I’ve only listened to a fraction of these because of their length, but I listen to most of my podcasts on 1.5x speed which helps. This podcast is super interesting without being a total buzzkill. Stay safe, don’t get murdered.

This Is LoveThis Is Love – This podcast makes it onto my top 5 favorites and it’s only released 3 episodes so far. Brought to you by the creators of the podcast Criminal (which I have not listened to yet), this show explores the mysteries of love in all forms (not just romantic). The second episode titled Something Large and Wild is one of the best episodes I’ve ever listened to across any podcast ever. It’s an incredible story of a distance swimmer helping a last baby whale reunite with its mother and IT’S SO BEAUTIFUL. Seriously so excited for more to be released here.

Duolingo Spanish Podcast

Duolingo Spanish Podcast – I use the Duolingo app regularly to strengthen mi español, and this podcast helps to further that education with true, bilingual stories. The narration goes back and forth between Spanish and English and is geared towards intermediate Spanish speakers. In true Spanish fashion, these stories always rip out mi corazon out in some way, shape or form – even the happy ones.

Famous People:

Anna Faris Is Unqualified

Anna Faris Is Unqualified – First of all, as a big fan of The House Bunny, I love Anna Faris. I’ve listened to all the episodes of Unqualified available and was still begging for more. Anna plays “Dating Dealbreakers” with her guests, does characters such as the obnoxious Kayla and snoody studio CEO Karen Sarducci, and gives unfiltered advice to callers. If you only listen to one episode, listen to Terry Crews. He goes off on a long tangent about what he has learned about life, love and masculinity and it is truly inspirational. So much of what he said was extremely relatable and relevant. (I asked my boyfriend to listen as well and he agreed.) Might be my favorite podcast, definitely in my top 3. “Fuck you, Sim.”

Straight Talk with Ross MatthewsStraight Talk with Ross Matthews – I just became a straight-talker after falling in love with Ross on Celebrity Big Brother. I’ve listened to the 2018 episodes, but I’m currently in the process of binging on all episodes available. It’s going to take me a while, but it’s going to be worth it. I have already laughed enough in the first 20 episodes to make me seem crazy to my co-workers and those who pass me on the street. It’s silly and upbeat and also in my top 3 favorite podcasts. Order your Squatty Potty today.

Here's The Thing with Alec BaldwinHere’s The Thing with Alec Baldwin – Let me just say that I love the way Alec interviews his guests. Hard hitting questions that dig deep and tell good stories from the entertainment industry history. Recently he interviewed Jann Wenner, the creator of Rolling Stone Magazine, and that was a good listen! As a fan of NBC, I most enjoyed his interviews with Jimmy Fallon, Lorne Michaels and QuestLove. I’ve been told that Alec was one of the first big celebrities with a podcast, so there are more interviews available than I have time to listen to. I’ve added my favorite celebrities to my queue to start, but there’s a lot more for me to dig into here.

Snoop Dogg's GGN PodcastSnoop Dogg’s GGN Podcast – I’m still making my way through the Snoop archives, but I have not been disappointed by one episode of the Double G News Podcast. I saw Gabriel Igelsias do stand-up last November where he talked about being a guest on this show. He brought his son with him to the recording, and both were offered the opportunity to smoke weed with Snoop, which made for a great bit in his stand-up. Listening to the episode and all the coughing was quite amusing, as was the Seth Rogan episode where he times how long it takes him to roll a cross-joint. (Fun Fact from this episode: Seth rolled all his own joints in the movie Pineapple Express.) The archives go back to 2015, so I am looking forward to binging on hours and hours worth of the sultry Snoop voice.

Bachelor Nation:

Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe

Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe – (I am only putting the Bachelor shows at the bottom of this post because not everyone cares as much as I do, but… ) I LOVE KAITLYN and her podcast is the reason I first opened up the podcast app – no joke. I am just such a huge fan of Kaitlyn’s and she is the only celebrity whose DMs I have tried to slide into. One of the best parts about Off The Vine is that she will recap the Bachelor shows, but she is also a fan of Big Brother (my reality show dream). I have found a good amount of behind-the-scenes insight to both shows as a result of this podcast.

TThe Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcasthe Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast – Just as I loved to watch Ashley I cry on her Bachelor shows, I could listen to that New Jersey accent gossip all day. Nothing against Ben, but I listen to this one for Ashley I. I cannot get enough of her and I loved her on Bach Winter Games! The Almost Famous Podcast is the first one that I listen to after a Bachelor franchise show airs some drama. All good things love, dating, and Ashley I.

If you have any podcast suggestions, please let me know!

Thanks for reading.